Improving SSL in 1.04 (works on 5222)

This is probably one of the most requested features.  SSL now works on port 5222 using the "new style" SSL connection that uses the StartTLS command.  It isn't 100% reliable yet, which is why it wasn't pushed out in yesterday's 1.03 but  it will definitely be in 1.04.  This combined with support the support for unsigned SSL certificates already in 1.03 should satisfy almost everyone.